We’ve all seen those graphics that claim that a real woman is this or that. They almost all have to do with a woman’s looks. I believe that every woman has a different definition of what it means to her to be a real woman, and I doubt that those definitions have anything to do with their appearance.
Here is what being a real woman means to me:
Real women take responsibility for their actions.
They understand that their choices and mistakes are on them. They don’t blame their parents, their bosses, their significant others. They have control over their own lives.
Real women don’t belittle other women for their life choices.
Some women want to get married and have children. Some don’t. Some women want to travel the world. Some women want to be CEOs. Some women want to be stay-at-home Moms. All are valid lifestyle choices. And a real woman recognizes this and doesn’t try to belittle the womanhood of someone else because they chose a different path in life. All are good lives to lead.
Real women know their strengths and weaknesses.
Real women can take care of themselves.
It’s OK to let someone take care of you on occasion. I think we all need that from time to time. But a real woman knows how to stand on her own two feet.
Real women can be on their own.
She can be alone with herself. She enjoys her own company.
Real women know how to dress appropriately for any occasion.
Because she realizes that not every occasion is about her.
Real women support other women instead of tearing them down.
She is never threatened by another woman’s success. She’s happy for her.
Real women know that real women come in all shapes, sizes, colors, and ages.
Real women are Mom’s. Or not.
Real women are daughters, granddaughters, nieces, sisters, aunts, friends.
Real women are human beings and they can be whatever they want to be.
Interviewer: There’s one thing that’s interesting about your books. I noticed that you write women really well and really different. Where does that come from?
George R.R. Martin: You know… I’ve always considered women to be people.
What does it mean to you to be a real woman? Let me know in the comments!
I’m taking a small blogging break, so for the next few weeks I’m reposting some of my favorite posts.