I want one of those

Posted April 9, 2012 by Paula in My Life / 4 Comments

My cousin, Kim, and her family are visiting us this week. Their first night here we played Yahtzee. I watched Kim try to teach her nine year-old twins how to play strategically, and then laughed when they ignored her advice and took a chance on rolling a straight or a full house. I thought to myself, I want one of those.

For New Years, my friends and I went to an indoor water park. We were relaxing in a shallow corner of the pool, when this little girl sat next to me. She looked up at me and grinned, “I can swim under the water.” Then she stuck her head in the water – more of her body was out than in – and proceeded to swim two feet. “See,” she said. I applauded her efforts and told her that she did a good job. And I remember thinking, I want one of those.

Alexandra wrote about spending some “girl time” with her daughter, and the unknowingly profound thing her little girl said, “The thing I like about painting is if you don’t like the way something turns out, you can just paint over it, or make it different.” I smiled and thought, I want one of those.

I often say that I don’t want kids. Sometimes it’s easier to say that you don’t want something because you’re afraid that you’ll never have it. But sometimes you can’t escape the truth. So, today I admit it – I want kids. Tomorrow I might be in denial again.

So, do you have kids? If you do, what’s your favorite thing about being a parent? If not, do you want to have kids? Or are you on the fence?


4 responses to “I want one of those

  1. Even though I’m already a parent, i can really relate to this. For the past several years, friends and family have been (kind of) joking about when I’m going to have another one. My daughter asks me all the time if she can have a brother or sister. And i always tell them that I’m done, that one is enough for me, that I don’t want to start all over with the baby stuff . . . And it’s all a bunch of b.s.! There’s nothing I want more than to have another child, but I’m not in a position to make that happen and I fear that I never will be. And like you said, it’s easier to say you don’t want something.

    I don’t think I can pick a favorite thing about being a parent. I love it all . . . even the not-so-fun parts.

    I wish I had some grand piece of advice for you, but the best I can say (and this is something I need to repeat to myself) is that you’re still young and don’t discount what the future might hold!
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  2. Paula – So glad you enjoyed that post. Like Dayle, it’s hard for me to pick one thing I like the most about parenting, but something I really enjoy is the excuse to do “childish” things I wouldn’t otherwise–to indulge my silly side, to bake cookies for no reason, to revel in someone who always (for now) wants to hold hands and doesn’t care how it “looks.” I learn a lot from my kids about what really matters–not always willingly, but they bring me back to what it is important. You do have plenty of time to have children, you never know what will happen in life. Also, one thing i really enjoyed before I had kids was volunteering at organizations that help kids–tutoring, reading to kids, doing activities etc. Before I was parent, this gave me some fun time with children. A colleague of mine who has a grown daughter really missed having a younger kid around, and so he signed up to be a Big Brother. It’s been a fantastic experience for both his “little brother” and for him. -A
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    • Sometimes I still feel like I have plenty of time, but other times I just feel old. lol But several of my friends have kids, so I get to play auntie to them, which is nice. 🙂

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