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8 things that are good for my soul

Self-care is a popular topic right now. Everywhere you look you see articles and advice about it. And I admit I’m not great at it. At least not the physical self-care. You know like making sure I eat right and exercise or properly take my thyroid medicine.

But one thing I am good at is knowing what speaks to my soul! I know the things that I need to do to make myself feel contented and happy. I know what I need to do when I feel off balance and just need to relax. So here are the eight things that are good for my soul.


I’m what you would call indoorsy. I’d rather be inside reading or writing. But when I actually make myself do it, I love walking!

Part of that love comes from when I was a kid. My Mom and Aunt would take my sister and me on hikes all the time. It always felt like we were going on an adventure!

So maybe part of the reason I love walking is that feeling still remains with me that an adventure is coming. And it doesn’t matter if I’m walking alone or with Cap and the dogs, walking always makes me feel centered and more like myself.


I don’t understand people who say that they don’t like to read! I can’t imagine life without books! Books have always been a part of my life! Even before I could read, I always wanted someone to read to me. I loved stories! And I still do!

When I’m stressed, one of the best ways I can relax is to read. My books will take me to another world and all my worries will be left far behind.

And I love walking through a bookstore and just looking at books! So many possibilities of new friends to make and new worlds to explore!

Books are the quietest and most constant of friends; they are the most accessible and wisest of counselors, and the most patient of teachers.

– Charles William Elliot


A love reading came naturally to me and so did a need to write. I started keeping a journal when I was 11 years old. Before that, I can remember writing stories and keeping a diary. I was always thinking up story ideas.

Words were so clear to me and I loved them. I would write down words that I thought were interesting so I could use them in my own books someday. And I kept a list of names I liked to use in future stories.

If someone asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I never hesitated – I wanted to be a writer!

But somewhere along the way, I started to grow up and my dream fell to the wayside. I didn’t write as much not even in my journal. (Though I still daydreamed of story ideas.) But in 2010 I found blogging! And all my love for writing returned. And I realized I was finally living out my childhood dream. Definitely not in the way I had pictured as a kid but I was still doing it! I was a writer!

And nothing makes me feel more centered than when I’m putting pen to paper or fingers to keyboard.

Working in my flower garden

This surprised me! Like I said, I’m indoorsy. But I love my flower garden! They make me so happy to look at them. I enjoy pulling the weeds and watering them. I may have even sung a few songs to them while I watered them. It was hard work but it was work that my soul enjoyed!


Clutter makes me panicky. Cap discovered this first hand when he helped me prepare for a yard sale. All the clutter from it made me cranky and short-tempered.

But when things are nice and neat, I can really relax and enjoy the things I truly love!

And I love going through things every so often and getting rid of what I no longer want or need. I just can’t look at the piles of unwanted stuff too long!


There was a time in my life when I thought naps were a waste of time. Oh, how young and naive I was! Naps are amazing! They’re a wonderful treat that makes me feel reenergized! That is if I take a proper nap. Sometimes I take epic naps which are like six hours long! Not always a great idea!

Being near the water

I love the beach! I love camping at the Lake! Anytime I’m near the water I feel at home and peaceful. Maybe it’s my Pisces nature. Whatever it is, I always come away feeling better and more relaxed.

Creative projects

I never thought of myself as creative. Even though I was building websites and creating my own layouts for years. Not mention writing and creating stories! For some reason, I always thought creative meant crafty.

But I finally realized that designing layouts and writing for my blog was creative. And creating something is an amazing feeling!

I’ve also started trying more crafty and arty endeavors to get my creative fix. I’ve been to painting classes with my sister and friends. I learned to bake desserts. I made wreaths to sell for Realy for Life. And recently my sister and I have been to wood painting classes. All of these things are fun to do, but they also make me happy and excited about life!

Our Love Boards
From a recent wood painting class my Sister and I took.

So, these are the things I turn to when I know my soul needs a little self-care. Now what about you? What feeds your soul? Let me know in the comments!

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8 responses to “8 things that are good for my soul

  1. This list is fabulous! Mine would include time at the beach, time outdoors, being creative, reading, listening to music, floating in the pool, and spending time with my honey. Great post!

  2. Bethany

    I think that you and I might be the same person… Your self care go-to list looks almost exactly like mine. Great post – I enjoyed it a lot!

  3. Margaret Clover

    I like walking too, it releases chemicals in the brain called adrenaline, and causes a person to feel more relaxed. It helps in reducing stress. Also, getting out of ones dwellings is necessary because being confined into one place for long periods of time is not healthy for wholeness, and ones mind.


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