What I learned in 2011

19th December 2011 | 2011 | 3 comments

“If the direction you are going in doesn’t scare you, you’re going in the wrong direction.”

I can’t remember where I read this quote, or even if I’m quoting it exactly right, but the idea really stuck with me. I was really nervous about applying for a promotion at work, but after I read the above statement, I knew that being nervous was a good thing. The things in life that are worth going after aren’t going to be easy or simple. They should make you scared; they should make you excited.

Even though I didn’t get the promotion, going through the interview process gave me some much needed confidence. Now I know that I can give a great interview and I know for sure that I want to keep trying until I reach that next level.

Minimalism isn’t for me.

Earlier this year I decided to give minimalism a try. It didn’t last long. I like stuff way to much. Plus, I am a shopaholic, who comes from a long line of hoarders, so minimalism just isn’t in the cards for me. :) I did throw out and give away a lot of things that I didn’t need, and I am proud of myself for that. Minimalism might not be for me, but I do want a clutter free home, and that is a goal that I am still working toward.

Skinny jeans aren’t just for the skinny.

This was the year I found fashion blogs, and it changed my thinking about how I judge people based on what they wear. I admit it, I was one of those people who would look at others and think, “She’s too old to be wearing that.” or “She doesn’t have the body for that.” I was so harsh in my thinking, not only toward others, but also toward myself. I would tell myself that I couldn’t wear something because I didn’t have the right body for it.

I know a lot of my thinking comes from years of watching shows like What Not to Wear and taking their style rules to heart. But sometimes you can take even good things a little to far. Reading fashion and body image blogs like, Already Pretty and You look Fab, gave me a fresh perspective and now I work hard not to be so judgmental about what others wear. I also found the courage to try clothes that I had always thought were cute, but that I “couldn’t” wear, like skinny jeans. Skinny jeans may not give me the “ideal” body shape most style rules say I should aim for, but because of fashion blogs, I learned that what really matters is that I like how I look in them. And I do!

Twitter can transform your blogging experience.

One of the best things that I did for my blog this year was sign up for Twitter. I did it on a whim, I had no idea how much it would change my whole online experience. Twitter makes it so easy to connect with people, or at least it made it a lot easier for me. :) I’ve found so many great bloggers because of Twitter, and I might never have made those connections without it. Twitter is also a quick and easy way to promote your blog! I know that my visitor count has went up since I started tweeting about my posts. It is really such a useful tool, everyone should be using it!

True friends will always be there.

True friends are the ones that will always make time for you. As you get older, your friends start getting married and having kids. It makes it harder to get together the way you did when you were younger. It’s only natural. But the friendships that are worth keeping, you will find a way to make them work. True friends will always make the extra effort to be there, especially for the big moments in life.

So, what have you learned this year? About yourself? About real life? About online life? Let me know in the comments!

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Alexandra

19th December 2011 at 4:39 PM permalink

Paula – Some great wisdom here, I agree with all of it. (And I am wearing some “skinny jeans” right now, much to my shock, as I do not have the figure one would expect should be seen in them. Walmart has some amazingly comfortable ones that I just ordered that look great w/black boots). But I digress . . . I also especially agree with the point of retaining friendships. True friends will find a way to keep in touch, even if it ebbs and flows. I have friendships that have lasted over 30 years, and I sometimes only see those friend once a year, but they still mean the world to me! Love the post. -A
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geeky_shopaholic Reply:

Thank you A! My friends continually amaze me with the lengths that they will go so that we can all get together. I am so blessed to have them! I glad that you enjoyed the post! :)

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Samantha Bangayan

8th November 2012 at 4:05 PM permalink

I can’t believe I hadn’t read this post yet! =) My favorite of your list is your first point about being scared. Sometimes, life can be so comfortable that I tend to shy away from anything that could be remotely negative, but I guess that’s exactly where I need to head towards. The fear means that I’ve successfully stepped out of my comfort zone!

Now that a new year is coming to an end, this is a good time to start taking stock. I’ve learned much more about my body. I know what foods to stay away from that give me tummy trouble and I know what antibiotics I’m allergic to. =)
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